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Allison Deraney's avatar

This is so beautiful, Kristen. Grief is NOT an inconvenience, I agree. It's here to teach, not torture us. I have found so many similarities with grief work and sobriety. They overlap. Neither is linear. And, to grieve WHILE sober is a superpower like no other.

This right here - "Let me watch you survive this. We all need witnesses. " Ooof. The witnessing is really all one needs. Not bright siding or fixing. Just listen. Stand watch.

I'm sorry for the loss of your mom and yet I know you must be stronger because of it. I lost my dad in 2020 and everything has been rearranged. You are so right in saying that. Life gets rearranged. Never put back in the same order.

Thanks for writing and sharing this.

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Rob Walling's avatar

Such a beautiful piece Kristen. Thank you for sharing such an intensely intimate part of you. My Dad just turned 80 and is in the early stage of dementia so I know my time is coming and it terrifies me honestly. I can only hope that I have an Ani Marie to be a witness when that time comes.

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