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Ellie Nova's avatar

Congratulations on 4 years sober Kristen! Me too :) Love all your reflections on love. That was huge for me too - learning how to be loving to myself rather than pouring poison into my body every day. And the journey continues. I am so so grateful now that, after years of practice, I have a strong, wise inner adult voice that I can call upon when I'm struggling that tells me 'I'm with you. I love you. It's OK'.

Celebrating you and your journey xx

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Kristen Bear's avatar

Thank you so much Ellie!! And congrats on your own journey! That inner voice, the one we can trust and rely on now-what a gift.

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Sheridan Phillips's avatar

Incredible piece. I really identified with all of it, namely the parts about regrettable behavior pre-sobriety, apathy and disillusionment, struggling with self-love, endlessly seeking validation, finding out real love only comes from within, prioritizing self care and joy, taking responsibility for my own shit, choosing good energy, not knowing the destination but excited about the journey. Thank you for sharing Kristen.

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Kristen Bear's avatar

Thank you Sheridan! So grateful for the journey. It’s amazing how much better the road ahead starts to look when we take control and commit to loving ourselves right.

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Sara Shelton's avatar

Congratulations on 4 years and for writing a spot-on piece that includes so many insightful aspects of sobriety that I never expected when I finally got desperate enough to go to treatment. I am so damn proud of myself for washing my face and brushing my teeth every night. These are the little inklings of self-respect and self-love that others may take for granted. Cheers to a whole new wonderful life of simple pleasures….and making it through hard shit (like losing my sister to suicide) without a thought of picking up a drink.

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Rachel Roman's avatar

Four years and here’s to Love !!!! ✨✨✨

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Kristen Bear's avatar

❤️❤️❤️❤️

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Kristen Bear's avatar

Thank you!

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